How did my 5th great grandparents, Jonas Long and Elizabeth Merrell, meet before marrying in 1816 on Staten Island, New York?
I do not know at this point in the research.
Jonas would have known Elizabeth's family through the neighborhood, business, and/or place of worship. Jonas likely lived and/or worked in either Middlesex County, New Jersey and Richmond County, New York. Merrells are plentiful in these counties.
A clue is in the will of Lambert Merrell. He signed his will on November 7, 1826. It was proved November 18, 1826 in Richmond County. He named his wife, Marry, and two sons, John Long and Daniel Levi.
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| Will of Lambert Merrell, 1826 Richmond County, New York |
These children were not of age, so a guardian was appointed. This was common practice of the time and was concerned with the preservation of the estate and not with the actual care or welfare of the children. As such, the mother of these children would not usually serve as the guardian.
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| Index of guardianships Richmond County, New York Entry for Merrell, John Long, age 14 and Daniel Levi age 12. |
Several men share the name Lambert Merrell in this time and place. This Lambert Merrell was the uncle of Elizabeth Merrell, wife of Jonas Long. We know this because the children's guardian changed in 1834 to Jacob VanPelt. The aunts of the children were listed. They were the grandaunts of Elizabeth Merrell.
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| Stillwell family genealogy by John E Stillwell, 1931. Seven children listed for Catharine Ann Stillwell and Daniel Levy Merrill. Daniel's parents are given as Lambert Merrill and Mary Long. |
Daniel Levi Merrell married Catharine Ann Stillwell. This union and their children were listed in a Stillwell compiled genealogy. In this work, the birth name of Mary was given as Long.
Is this accurate? I don't know. John Levy Merrill was born in 1862, not 1882. This was a typo.
I have found no other source of Mary's birth name. It is possible that John Long was the name of her father and not a morphed tribute to Jonas Long, husband of Elizabeth Merrell. And it is entirely likely that Mary Long and Jonas Long were related and crossed paths with the Merrell family in the 1810s.
Below is the portion of the family tree with Mary Long and Jonas Long highlighted.
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| Family tree Mary Long married Lambert Merrell, probably late 1810s. Jonas Long married Elizbeth Merrell in 1816. |




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